People Who Need People on the Down low

I have some real issues with the terms people have for themselves and each other. And I guess my biggest problem is with the term dl or down low or on the low.

I betcha got a chick on the side, sure you got a chick I know you got a chick on the side.

First, everybody acts as if this is some great revelation. Negroes please. People have been keeping certain things close for a long time. There is a man I know who has buried two wives. He has something like 12 children. He is in his 90's now. But each time a wife has died his children have met new siblings.

The first wife died in his 40's and when she died it was revealed that he had been in a continuing relationship with another woman for the past 14 years and there was a daughter born to the union who had known her daddy all of those years. She was also told that she could not reveal who her daddy was. So Pops knew, the woman knew, the kid knew and from all reports, the wife never knew. Everybody had an agreement and it worked for them.

I betcha got a chick on the side, sure you got a chick I know you got a chick on the side.

The children of the wife were at first shocked then they accepted it, because what else could they do?

He later remarried and had a new family with the second wife. Low and behold when she died history repeated itself. 45 years after the first revelation Pops had done it again. What is amazing is that Pops does not live in a major metro area. He lives in a small city of maybe 150,000 where most of the blacks know each other or of each other. In fact Pops never lived more than 10 minutes from other woman 1 or other woman 2.

I betcha got a chick on the side, sure you got a chick I know you got a chick on the side.

I heard some family members become quite critical when it was revealed that Pops had done it again, after all he is a deacon in the church. He was the first one to rail against Pastors with roving eyes, and voted to keep unwed mothers from singing in the choir or ushering while they were pregnant.

The family members accused Pops of being a hypocrite and of being whorish. Others said that Pops was just living biblically. He had a wife and a concubine. What's wrong with that?

I know that this dl fever is mostly directed at Men who have sex with Men (MSM) but straight men know and play this game with verve and panache.

And they secretly thank God for J L King because he took the pressure off and the tradition continues.

The question remains was this a bad thing Pops did? Did anybody get hurt?

Bad who knows? Pops was a horrible father to all his children. He worked hard to support these multiple families so he spent no time with any of them and he is surprised at 90 plus they have no fond childhood memories of him. The children to some men of his generation where the concern of women and his relationship with his adult children reflects that dynamic. They all talk about their late mothers and only talk about the rampages of Pops.

Did anyone get hurt? I don't know.


I betcha got a chick on the side, sure you got a chick I know you got a chick on the side.